HEALTHY WAYS TO OVERCOME TOXIC MARRIAGE.

There was a wealthy man from Maon who owned property near the village of Carmel. He had three thousand sheep and a thousand goats, and it was sheep-shearing time. This Man's name was Nabal, and his wife, Abigail, was a sensible and beautiful woman. But Nabal, a descendant of Caleb, was mean and dishonest in all his dealings. (1 Samuel 25:1-3)

Marriage is a desirable gift from God. But not everyone can handle the institute of marriage. Mama Funke says, "marriage is sweet but depending on the cutlery you use to eat it." To start with, what is marriage? Who instituted marriage? Who's qualified to be married? All these questions will be answered briefly. 

Marriage is an institution ordained by God during the creation of Adam and Eve. Genesis 2:24 NIV describes what marriage is all about. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. 
By this scripture, marriage is designed for man, not boys. Therefore, It's the only institution where certificate is issued on the day of your admission. 
God instituted marriage. To be qualified for marriage, you must be mentally sound, economically empowered, spiritually inclined, and be matured in reasoning not in age.
In today's topic we say healthy ways to overcome toxic marriage. What makes a marriage toxic? There are many reasons why a marriage can be toxic. In the context of the anchor scripture, the man, Nabal was a mean and dishonest man in all his dealings but the wife, Abigail a sensible and beautiful woman.  That's to say, a marriage can be toxic when the couples are not compatible in character, in words. But according to the given scripture there are measures of which such marriage can overcome their differences.

Principle #1: The first step is to admit there's a problem:

Abigail recognized and acknowledged that she was married to a mean and dishonest personality. Acknowledging your husband has the character and the tendencies of Nabal is the first step in overcoming toxic marriage.

(1Samuel 25:25)  I know Nabal is a wicked and ill-tempered man; please don't pay any attention to him. He is a fool, just as his name suggests. But I never even saw the messengers you sent. 

Principle #2: Ask for help

She fell at his feet and said, "I accept all blame in this matter, my lord. Please listen to what I have to say. (1 Samuel 25:24)

Many people need help but not everybody wants it. My experience in the ministry has taught me to give help to those who ask for it and not just to those who need it. There are many needs everywhere. If you try to help some needy people, they may attack you to show their gratitude. We once experienced this when our church built a facility for a community.
Abigail asked David politely to listen to her and understand what she was going through.

Principle #3: The next step is to realize that God is the one who gave you your husband. 

When you are conscious of the fact that God is the one who established you in marriage, it will help you to realize that it is God who preserves the marriage. 

A woman who is conscious of the fact that God brought her to where she is, never wants to be separated from the Lord. She needs the help of the Lord in everything that she does. It is God who will keep you going. 

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